Month May 2021

We met the summer between my Junior and Senior year at college. My spouse attended another college in a different city. We were married before the end of my senior year. We both came from broken homes. My spouse didn’t… Continue Reading →

Most my childhood is a blank. But I can recall having friends up to about the second grade. After that, there wasn’t really anyone who I could call a friend. At least not a true friend. I wasn’t invited over… Continue Reading →

It seems counter-intuitive. You would think that someone who grew up in the midst of domestic violence would avoid getting in relationships with abusive or corrosive people. Yet, I seem to gravitate to these people. I always find the partner… Continue Reading →

I have always felt like an outsider looking in. I knew I was somehow different from most all of those around me. I heard the words introvert and extrovert but never really understood them. Then Susan Cain came along. I… Continue Reading →

Finally. After years of knowing something was wrong and trying to seek help, I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD (C-PTSD). It was an incredible relief and a first step towards healing. You would think most people getting a diagnosis would… Continue Reading →

The single most import thing I did in this entire process was to forgive my father. I don’t believe I could have began to heal prior to extending this grace to my father. I came to the place of forgiveness… Continue Reading →

My first EMDR counselor never told me about emotional flashbacks. I found about these during my own research into C-PTSD. Just learning about their existence was freeing for me. What are emotional flashbacks? According to Pete Walker, “Emotional flashbacks are… Continue Reading →